Janice Neese Obituary (2021) – Greensboro, NC
Neese, Janice Dawn Aydelette
Janice Dawn Aydelette Neese, 87, passed away peacefully at her home on Sunday, October 3, 2021, in Greensboro, North Carolina.
Jan (Grammie) was born in Vance County, NC, on June 3, 1934, and was soon adopted by Jim and Margaret Aydelette. She graduated from Greensboro Senior High (Grimsley) in 1952, where she was involved in many school activities. She also attended Mars Hill College. Jan enjoyed church from a young age and was a member of Asheboro Street Baptist Church, where she was active in youth and music programs.
While attending Gillespie Park School, she met the love of her life, Thomas R. Neese, Jr., when she was just 13 years old. They were married on June 16, 1956 at Asheboro Street Baptist Church. As newlyweds, they moved to Montclair, NJ, followed by several other moves before settling in Greensboro. In the fall of 1962 they joined the Lawndale Baptist Church, where they continue to be members. At Lawndale, Jan brought her many talents to the fore by teaching the children’s choir, singing in the adult choir, playing handbells and volunteering in many other activities. She was deeply in love with her “sisters” in Helens Angels Sunday School class and hosted numerous Sunday school events in her home. She was an accomplished musician who could play many instruments, including the piano and organ. She was also a professionally trained singer and recorded many albums. In her early years, she worked at the Sears retail store in downtown Greensboro and also worked as a dental assistant. She was an avid gardener and loved planting around her patio worthy of any Southern Living ceiling.
Jan’s most rewarding job has been raising her four challenging children, who admit they have seldom made her job easy. She was passionate about supporting her children and grandchildren and loved to cheer them on in all of her many after-school activities. “Mama Neese” was known as the original, official cowbell ringer at Grimsley sporting events, a tradition that continues to this day. She possessed a sense of adventure and independence, qualities that she adopted through many summers traveling by pulling a vacation rental across the country so her children could explore the United States.
Jan was indebted to her beloved husband Tom. In their 74 years of life together, Jan and Tom went through many difficult times. She was dedicated to helping him and her family. Their marriage was marked by constant loyalty and willingness to make sacrifices, marked by deep love, friendship and respect. Your children and grandchildren are so grateful for the incredible role models they had in both Jan and Tom.
Jan’s children will continue to celebrate their mother’s generous and giving spirit, kindness and authenticity, and her zeal for fulfilling and adventurous lives. You will appreciate the importance of trusting God and loving family as she has never met a stranger, and that her home has always been open to friends and family. Everyone who knew Jan also benefited from all of these gifts. Her grandchildren have also benefited from the best pancakes and “rubs” from their Grammy for many years.
She leaves behind her beloved 65-year-old husband Thomas R. Neese, Jr., children Andrea Neese Pegram (Rick), Alicia Neese Irvin (David), Thomas R. Neese III and Kendra Neese Bowers (Bryan), her brother Kennyth Aydelette
(Sandy) and her grandchildren: Thomas McGarity (Nikki), Charles Irvin (Lisa), Ashley Irvin (fiancé Reid McGhee), Haley Thomas (Colton), Taylor Irvin (Elaina), Rice Neese IV, Riley Neese, Rhodes Neese, Alexander Bowers, Catherine Bowers and their great-grandchildren David Irvin, Abigail Irvin and Bennett Irvin. Her parents Jim and Margaret Aydelette and her beloved grandson Patrick Bowers preceded her in death.
A visitation will be held at the Lawndale Baptist Church in Greensboro on Saturday, October 9th, from 1pm to 2pm. A celebration of Jan’s life will follow at 2 p.m. in the church, followed by a funeral service in Forest Lawn Cemetery.
In lieu of flowers, memorial donations can be made to the Department of Music at Lawndale Baptist Church, 3505 Lawndale Drive, Greensboro, NC 27408.
The family would like to thank the many carers who showed their love for Jan: Stacey Watkins, Hailey Cochran, Maddie and Sophie Vachon, Kate Bell, Lela Hunt, AuthoraCare Collective and many others.
Jan loved wearing bright and cheerful colors that reflected her vibrant personality. If you attend the service, please remember to honor Jan by wearing something equally bright and cheerful.
Condolences online at www.forbisandick.com.
Published by Greensboro News & Record on October 7, 2021.